BREATH AWAY ANGER
ANGER is becoming a growing problem in our lives and if left unchecked, it can ruin relationships and bring disastrous results to our society. Most of us live in a stressful working and family environment and owing to this the slightest disturbance in our daily routines can cause annoyance.
The aggressive behaviour can be triggered f following a telephone call, disappointments, aggravation, harassment, frustration, expectations, desires, irritation or inability deal with a situation. These events can occur at our place of work, home or during our travels. Having the feeling of anger is normal and no one can escape from anger. What is more important is how to deal ith it so that it does not land us into serious trouble.
It is common to hear an individual say "I can only take so much in life" before they explode with negative emotions. Many people do not realise that anger atually causes harm to our body as it akes our heart beat faster, increases our blood pressure, tenses up muscles, makes us radiate an aura of unfriendliness, harms our mental, emotional and physical health, and our equilibrium.
Medically, anger can cause headaches, ulcers, depression, sleep disorders, fatigue, bowel and respiratory problems. It is vital that we take control of ourselves when we encounter negative situations that can contribute to fury.
There are many ways to prevent ourselves from being dragged into an unpleasant state : that can generate destructive emotions. When you are confronted with a situation that can create anger, face it directly and apeak calmly.
Think before you respond so that you understand the other person's point of view, viewing the situation in a more neutral manner can help ease the upsetting event at an early stage. Sometimes it is best to postpone talks in a tensed condution until a cooler ation prevails.
Be at peace with yourself, with people around and with the environment because these three virtues of life will keep us calm and composed.
Firstly, we should aware of the surronndings we are in if this is turning to be unfavourable, it is best we move to a space where we can take self-control. We should put in effort to be in the presence of people who are positive and can bring cheer to our lives.
Here positive thinking further enhances our control system to manage the situation confronting us. A good laugh can also quickly dispel anger. Patience and tolerance is another important ingredient to analyse the situation and it should be followed by forgiveness and love.
Two powerful methods used since ancient times to combat strong feelings of displeasure is meditation and silence because some answers can only be answered in silence.
Tips on Anger Management
There are various ways to deal with anger. A simple and highly recommended way is the breathing exercise.
Step one: Breathe deeply from your diaphragm, as breathing from your chest will not relax you.
Step two: Slowly repeat this breathing exercise with a calm word or phrase like "I am at peace with myself and at peace with the world", and repeat this to yourself while you continue to breathe deeply.
Step three: Programme your mind and use imagery, such as the visualisation of a relaxing experience or environment like a scenic place, sunset scene, waterfalls, from either your memory or your imagination.
Step four: Try affirmations like "I am in full control of myself, I am becoming more forgiving and tolerant and I always send out love to those around me" which will further strengthen your thoughts.
Step five: Remind yourself to think positive and calmly.
You can practise these techniques daily, but remember to use them especially during any type of tense situations in which you can feel yourself getting angry.
Finally, a witty quote from conscious living guru Sri Sri Ravi Shanker: "Make your smile cheaper and your anger expensive".
