Problems and Relationships in Love
Problems within marriages often link to outside sources. For example, society, political groups, education, and religion has all worked together to send the marriage arrangement into confusion. Families today have lost sight of traditional and principal roles of family arrangements, and often use sex as the tool to make a relationship work. Marriages have become a short-lived affair rather than an enduring promise between two individuals. Many scapegoats use tools to breakdown marriages today and continue using these tools throughout the lifetime. However, studies have shown that the ultimate reason for divorce is “A person fails to consider his spouse's feelings, needs, values, and goals, or acts in disregard of them.” (The Encyclopedia of Mental Health: Professor Dr. Emily MUDD)
Therefore, family members, friends, and other external sources are quick to encourage divorce, rather than working out the problems. Influences have always played a large role in causing harm to others. A person has the capability to reach down deep inside him/her self to find the answers too many problems.
The basis for a good marriage is building the relation on solid grounds. Many people believe that sex before marriage eliminates many doubts. However, the bible encourages us to remain in celibacies until joined together in marriage. Sex before marriage links to failure in marriages, simply because a principal is, disregarded. Once the couple is married for a length of time, they often find reasons to disrupt the marriage. For example, instead of taking responsibility for their own behaviors, they accuse the other. When this takes action, nothing is accomplished and all is lost, if either party is not willing to adhere to the biblical principals, humility.
Looking for Spice
Studies have proven down through the years that pornographic materials cause divorces, child molestation/pornography, rape, incest, murder, as well as other crimes. Now tell me, how can such material spice up, or enhance romance within a marriage? The bible says, “Everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew; 5:28)
Often men and women engage in erotic activities after enduring a lengthy marriage. Some engage in such behaviors before the marriage and even a short time after the marriage. For example, Men and women both, often engage in the adulterous world of fantasy and literacy. Magazines publish nudity, jokes, and promiscuous sexual relationships regardless of the pricey cost per copy. They reason, believing that people need illicit pictures and words to keep the romance alive within a marriage. They also believe that extra-martial affairs are a solution for spicing up a marriage. Contradicting the principals of the bible can lead to the escalating rate of high-priced divorces. The scriptures clearly state, “thou shall not commit adultery,” as well as making the people aware that their sins will catch up to them eventually. If you think you are getting away with something, think again. The bible clearly states that your sins manifest throughout your life to the public. In addition, the media concept that “sex sells” is a corrupted philosophy. If you think about it, the concept is the same as promoting prostitution.
As we can see from reading the article and many other informative pieces that the breakdown of marriages stems from altered worldly traditions, customs, beliefs, influences, et cetera. To build a rock-solid marriage foundation, we have to communicate, adhere to the principals of the bible, work in harmony, avoid negative influences, rely on God's understanding; search deep within your soul to find the answer to the problems you and your mate are enduring, and learn to accept changes as you grow together. You must also learn to be considerate of each other; understanding, loving, unselfish, compassionate, passionate, honest, respectful, and willing to work together to build a rock-solid foundation. Marriage is a mutual promise between two individuals that requires unselfish love and a lot of work to keep together. Whether you are aware of it or not, God created us with the desire to fill our spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical needs within his guidelines. If you are not willing to explore your spiritual needs with an open-mind, most likely you will endure emotional, physical, and mental losses. You will also endure failures and much more heartache, as well as divorce as a possible result.