Reverse Love and Relationships
Matrimony or relationships are a promise flanked by two joint persons that both would work hard to fulfill the vows made between the two of them. At one time divorces were rare, but nowadays we hear reports of divorce around the world daily. The law has made it easy for couples to divorce on any ground; however, due to the increase of divorces the law is starting to reconsider their laws. The laws of God laid open the true directions when the law stated that a man could not divorce his wife unless she commits adultery. This is true for women, since they too can divorce when one partner commits an act of adultery.
Nowadays, it takes two to make a relationship work, since both parties must work to make ends meet. Therefore, the selfishness of gain has lead to the destruction of homes, since children have no direction, while parents focus on money.
The reverse in love and relationships has also lead to problems. In some instances, women work while the men stay at home and take care of the children. Few blame the changes on the Liberation of Women; however, this is merely an excuse to enforce laziness. From the beginning of time, man was the breadwinner. Now, women are breadwinners while men are moms.
Likewise, women have taken the role of playing dad. Where does this change lead? What directions are relationships heading? The relationships nowadays are heading toward a world of chaos, separation and/or divorce.
Divorce in its self makes a statement. When two people separate they are saying, I do not have the elements to make love last, or to love someone else. Most people think of divorce as love no longer exists, but unconditional love never dies. Unconditional love works overtime by utilizing the human mechanism incorporated into their souls from the beginning of time. The mechanisms, including long-suffering, self-control, respect, honor, love, trust, et cetera often lack in relationships that lead to divorce and/or separation.
Of course, if adulterous behaviors, abuse or neglect is involved in a relationship it does not mean that one person in the relationship did not exercise his or her human mechanisms and that love is not in existence.
The one partner may have worked hard to make the relationship work; however, the other partner had obvious selfish gain that it broke down the trust and other elements that compose love.
Sometimes self-control is not enough, especially with today's relationships. Since the reverse of relationship a new direction is essential, otherwise divorce will continue to upsurge. Yet, we still must wonder which direction is healthy, since the world is now seeing that the first set of rules lay out on humankind were more productive than those set up by humanity.
The rules today allow relationships to end on most any ground and permits marriages to begin on the same level. While few states are placing stipulations on both marriage and divorce, it is not enough to stop or slow the ongoing increase of divorces and separation.
The rules originally began as follow. The man is in subjection to Christ, woman in subjection to husband, children in subjection to parents, and man love his family as he loves himself.
The problem came when the rules were broken. At what time man became abusive, neglecting and not supporting their families and adulterous, thus new laws were in the making. Unfortunately, men more so than women in the past committed adultery. The woman was entitled to leave her mate on these grounds, yet in an abusive relationship, the woman forced by the laws remains married to the mate.
Abusive relationships often lead to ungodly pain, suffering, and death on some occasions, thus asking or demanding someone to remain faithful in this type of relationship is an act of inhumanity. Therefore, humanity is an element that needs readdressed, since the laws and society often lack the human mechanism that was naturally giving to us by God to make love and relationships work. The reverse of love and relationships is another problem that increases divorce and promotes separation.